I am so glad you are here.
First of all, thank you for visiting my website and taking a look around.
I am hoping that this blog will be a place to connect as I share some of my reflections and musings about life, lessons I am learning and techniques that may be helpful to you as you are also navigating this crazy thing called life.
For most of my life, we have only gone for short periods of time without someone (or a few people) living with us. My parents policy was always "If we have an extra room...and someone needs a room...why wouldn't we invite them in?". As much as this has at times created some chaos, it has also been very fun and rich.
Between this and my various living experiences at different schools, I have had over 32 different roommates! This doesn't include my many years of spending summers at camps both as a camper and counsellor, and leading youth trips to the Dominican where we have had as many as 12 sleeping in a room with no A/C for 10 days. And I love it!
Through having the opportunity to live and do life with all these people, I have learned many things. The one that stands out to me as I start my new practice is that we all have 'stuff'. We all have wounds from our past and present, unprocessed grief, fears, pain and hurt. Many of us have learned to cope by stuffing our feelings deep in the closet within ourselves and locking the door.
There can then come a point where everything we have hidden and ignored starts tumbling out and wreaking havoc in our lives.
I love to use the analogy of Monica's closet. I am a big Friends fan and one of my favourite episodes is when Chandler discovers that there is this secret closet in Monica's apartment that he had never noticed before. Monica tries to ward off Chandlers curiosity about it but he isn't swayed. We eventually find out *Spoiler alert* that Monica, who is a type-a neat freak in every other area of her life, has a secret closet of chaos! It is the place where she shoves everything she doesn't want to deal with and it is so full she can barely open the door without things tumbling out.
Do you have a closet or drawer like that? I know I do!
And I think this is what happens in our lives. We shove all of those hard feelings and experiences into our inner closets and eventually, it gets to the point where you can't open the door without other things tumbling out. All of a sudden you are having a tsunami reaction to a seemingly minor incident and have no idea why.
If this is you, if this resonates with something inside of you, I would love to help you begin to organize your inner closet.
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